who’s the fairest of them all?
vanity… i think that most americans “struggle” with it. some of us will do the craziest things just out of shear vanity. i’m a slave to this notion of vanity as well. i can’t help it.
so how does it manifest with me? ugh, how doesn’t it!. i’m 8 months pregnant and still somehow manage to reach over my belly and shave in the shower. i fold into some oddly shaped pretzel in order to paint my toes. i change my nail color every week. i refuse to allow the people where i live to do my eyebrows because i don’t want them to mess my face up. this list could go on.
the only reason why i don’t see this as problematic is because i do it for myself. i’m single and living with my mom AND it’s wintertime and i still do all this upkeep. why? because i love different colors on my fingers and toes. i love the way my legs feel when they are freshly shaven. i love the way my eyebrows accentuate my eyes when properly done–even if it’s just me looking at them.
so often i hear people doing things to themselves for the benefit of another and i see this as problematic and speaks to a greater challenge that is plaguing most people. self love.
my spirit is disturbed when i hear people put more emphasis on another person’s opinion of themselves then their own. why does another person’s view of you matter so much? i read this quote tonight on twitter:
what another person thinks of you is none of your business.
i don’t know who said it but they were really on to something. i remember when i was going through my divorce. i was talking to my brother about what to do. the only thing holding me back from asking for the divorce was what my family and others would think. he told me that i needed to make my bed in such a way that i could sleep comfortably at night. no one else has to sleep in your bed but you so why do others matter so much?
i don’t know the answer to that question. maybe you do. but the next time you’re asking how you look, i hope you’re asking yourself in the mirror instead of trying to impress another.
xoxo
me
I cannot believe I didn’t know you had a blog!!!!! I talk to you on fb, btw (LP- Kentucky). lol.
Anywho, what you just described as yourself above IS SO ME. lol. Except the changing the nail polish just because you like different colors. I HATE doing my nails and toes but for vanity’s sake I do it.. even before I had a man, I kept all of that stuff up, because I like to look at ME.